I exercise. I know by looking at me, it is hard to believe, but I actually do.
I do it for health and I do it so that I will be healthy for my husband and children.
I would do it to lose weight, but apparently that doesn't work for me.
For instance, a few months ago, for at least 6 weeks straight and it might have been longer, I walked/ellipticaled/exercised for 1.5 hrs a day at least 4 days a week. Not one pound lost! Not one! However, towards the end of that 6 weeks, my triglycerides were down 30 points from a year ago. They aren't really high now, but they were slightly elevated before. And that was my only abnormal lab.
I had been doing the MOVE series off www.dailyburn.com . This is a website I LOVE!.
Joining a gym is out for us. It costs too much money and I just don't have 2 hrs a day to devote to driving there, working out, extra shower, driving home, etc. and I know I just wouldn't want to leave the family every night to go work out, IF I could even fit it into my schedule.
I saw an article about a month ago and I don't remember where, so I can't link to it. But it made a point that cardio is good, but you have to have weight training to build muscle to lose weight. The article also said that if you go to a gym, the overweight people are trudging along on the ellipticals, treadmills, etc, while the ripped, thin people are on the weights. Hmm! He did have a point.
And when I was thin in college, I did lift weights, (in addition to playing every intramural sport, running, and going to the fitness center almost daily)
There is a section on Daily Burn that is call Tactical Body Weight Training or TBT. Aaron had been doing these, but I hadn't. It is an intense workout where you use your weight as the weight to build muscle. I have been doing it at least 4 weeks. I could tell a difference in my arm strength after two weeks. I can really tell a difference after 4 weeks. Have I lost weight.? Why no, of course not, that would be too typically human to exercise and lose weight. I have to be atypical.
But I do like feeling stronger. My legs have always been my strongest. Seriously, before I even started this I could do 10 squats with Aaron on my back. And carry Aaron on my back up the stairs without breaking a sweat. ( I know, weird ways to occupy ourselves) He weighs 155.
But I can tell a difference with my legs too.
A huge plus that I was not expecting...
About a year ago, my calves, ankles and feet started swelling. not too bad, and probably not even enough that a person that didn't know what my legs looked like before would notice. But I noticed. It would be really bad after working 12 hour shifts. I know some of that is normal, to swell a little. My doctor went ahead and did an Echocardiogram to rule out heart issues. Heart was normal! So she put me on this little diuretic pill. Which I did not want to take, but I do.
It was dependent edema, caused by gravity. For instance, the week I had bronchitis, my legs were the smallest they had been in months. no swelling at all because I had been in bed and not on my feet.
Well, back to the benefit of this weight training exercises... I started noticing that my ankles and feet were smaller. All this building of calf muscles is promoting better circulation in my legs and I have even skipped my pills a few times because I didn't need them. Soon, I expect I can throw that prescription away!
All this to say that I am sore. I had a weird 2 day summer cold last week, couldn't exercise, then I worked 2 12 hr shifts, which exhaust me, had a headache one day and was just plain lazy another, which all ended in me skipping a week of TBT. I started back two days ago. I hadn't lost all my strength, but OH am I sore. But it is a good sore, that perhaps I will work out today.
Next stop China
Next Stop China!
Wednesday, August 14, 2013
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Ministry
Aaron and I have a ministry out of our own home. It is to raise our 5 children to be on fire for God. To be more than church attenders and good people. Our ministry is to school our children. Our ministry is to raise as many children as we can. Children who would have no hope without parents and a family. I have realized that part of this ministry is to pay off our debt so we can adopt again, which requires me to work a lot.
At this time in my life, I have a lot going on. I realize that we could all say that.
I have 5 children.
I am homeschooling these children.
We are starting to get full swing into fall soccer.
And back to our ministry. We both realized that with all this debt hanging over our heads....leftover from the adoptions, house repairs, and our car...that we can't adopt again or help any more children until it is gone.
Why, because I would have to work even more if we added more adoption debt to what we already have. Probably full time, which I could get in 3 12 hour shifts a week, which leaves me exhausted for the rest of the week. And very stressed out and irritable. Aaron and I dream of how nice it would be for me to only work 3 days a month ( which is my minimum) and be home the rest of the time. With time and mental energy to relax and enjoy life instead of stressing so much. If we get rid of this debt I and fundraise for the next adoption, I should be able to work minimal hours.
Here we are to the point of all this...
I don't need another thing to stress about. I don't need another responsibility. And when I tell you nicely, that I don't want that other responsibility, don't ask me to do it again. And when I tell you nicely again, that I am not taking over that other responsibility, don't call on a Saturday, put my husband on the spot (who was there BOTH times I said no) and wrangle him into doing it, thereby wrangling me into doing it.
Do you realize that I have 2 45 min sections of time every week, that I can sit down, listen to a Bible lesson, with people my own age, and mingle with Christians my own age and NOT have a child in my lap or trying to get my attention and distract me from worship and study. THAT IS IT! 1.5 hrs a week for this if you count Wed. night and Sun. morning .
Unlike all the retired people at church, all the people whose children are teens and can take care of themselves for a few hours, all these people could easily have friends over to their house for uninterrupted chat time or Bible study or supper. We can't! And I am not complaining that we can't. I love a big family. However, esp. on Sunday mornings, that 45 min that I sit in class without interruptions, after getting 5 kids ready for church and driving 20 min. is such a blessing to me.
And someone wants to take that away from me. Ahh!
I know that it isn't as personal as I am taking it, but AHHH!!!.
So Sunday morning, instead of looking forward to going to worship and class, I had to pray and bite back bitterness and irritability.
That apparently, you can't politely tell anyone no.
I don't like this position I have been put in. Someone asks nicely. I, knowing that while we are paying off this debt, I am stressed to the max, that I can't handle 3 year olds on Sunday morning and I really do need that 45 min. class. So I tell him no.
The next week, because the teacher is late again, perhaps not showing up, he asks again, I tell him no again.
And then 2 weeks later, he calls the house on a Saturday, asking Aaron to fill in the next day, and being put on the spot, Aaron says yes.
I don't know how to say NO again without being rude. And I feel mad because I have been nice twice and he won't take NO for an answer and I know that next time when I am rude, then I will look and feel bad, when if he would just take NO for an answer I wouldn't be put in this position.
Seriously, what makes you continue to ask the person at church with the most kids to teach over and over when they say NO?
At this time in my life, I have a lot going on. I realize that we could all say that.
I have 5 children.
I am homeschooling these children.
We are starting to get full swing into fall soccer.
And back to our ministry. We both realized that with all this debt hanging over our heads....leftover from the adoptions, house repairs, and our car...that we can't adopt again or help any more children until it is gone.
Why, because I would have to work even more if we added more adoption debt to what we already have. Probably full time, which I could get in 3 12 hour shifts a week, which leaves me exhausted for the rest of the week. And very stressed out and irritable. Aaron and I dream of how nice it would be for me to only work 3 days a month ( which is my minimum) and be home the rest of the time. With time and mental energy to relax and enjoy life instead of stressing so much. If we get rid of this debt I and fundraise for the next adoption, I should be able to work minimal hours.
Here we are to the point of all this...
I don't need another thing to stress about. I don't need another responsibility. And when I tell you nicely, that I don't want that other responsibility, don't ask me to do it again. And when I tell you nicely again, that I am not taking over that other responsibility, don't call on a Saturday, put my husband on the spot (who was there BOTH times I said no) and wrangle him into doing it, thereby wrangling me into doing it.
Do you realize that I have 2 45 min sections of time every week, that I can sit down, listen to a Bible lesson, with people my own age, and mingle with Christians my own age and NOT have a child in my lap or trying to get my attention and distract me from worship and study. THAT IS IT! 1.5 hrs a week for this if you count Wed. night and Sun. morning .
Unlike all the retired people at church, all the people whose children are teens and can take care of themselves for a few hours, all these people could easily have friends over to their house for uninterrupted chat time or Bible study or supper. We can't! And I am not complaining that we can't. I love a big family. However, esp. on Sunday mornings, that 45 min that I sit in class without interruptions, after getting 5 kids ready for church and driving 20 min. is such a blessing to me.
And someone wants to take that away from me. Ahh!
I know that it isn't as personal as I am taking it, but AHHH!!!.
So Sunday morning, instead of looking forward to going to worship and class, I had to pray and bite back bitterness and irritability.
That apparently, you can't politely tell anyone no.
I don't like this position I have been put in. Someone asks nicely. I, knowing that while we are paying off this debt, I am stressed to the max, that I can't handle 3 year olds on Sunday morning and I really do need that 45 min. class. So I tell him no.
The next week, because the teacher is late again, perhaps not showing up, he asks again, I tell him no again.
And then 2 weeks later, he calls the house on a Saturday, asking Aaron to fill in the next day, and being put on the spot, Aaron says yes.
I don't know how to say NO again without being rude. And I feel mad because I have been nice twice and he won't take NO for an answer and I know that next time when I am rude, then I will look and feel bad, when if he would just take NO for an answer I wouldn't be put in this position.
Seriously, what makes you continue to ask the person at church with the most kids to teach over and over when they say NO?
Sunday, August 11, 2013
Got my 12 hours in on Friday and Saturday. The pickings at home for meals were scarce and didn't leave much choice. However, Aaron looked on the bright side and said that it was easier to not have many choices and to just cook the minimal food that was there. When you see firsthand what other people have to eat just to survive in other countries, you realize you have no right to complain when there is plenty of clean, fresh food you can eat, you just may not get to eat what you want to that day. Anyway, I had a grocery list that was going to send me to Aldi and Kroger, since there were a few things on my list that are unavailable at Aldi. Like rice milk, kale, and a few other things.
I remembered that Kroger had sent me some coupons in the mail. I dug those out and had a lot of coupons for things that were on my list including free eggs and peanut butter, and other things that were cheaper at Kroger with these coupons they sent. So I ended up going at 8pm last night when I got off work. The girls went with me and we got home about 9. I was feeling pretty good when I left the house, but was feeling pretty awful by the time I got home. But I survived.
I had a small list for Aldi, so Aaron agreed to drop me and Natalie off on the way home from church, go get gas, then come back and pick us up and go home. This was very hard because we are always starving. But we all had a cheese stick on the way home to get us by until lunch.
I am proud of myself with our new budget. I added the food up today, as we put it in the cart, knowing that I had $75 left in our 2 week budget for food. We even put some items back because I really didn't want to go over. But, alas, I ended up spending $77 today.
We started this budget almost 4 weeks ago. Our goal is $600 total in groceries every 4 weeks (we really do 2 week budgets, so $300 every 2 weeks) I ended up spending around $575 on groceries - $270 the first 2 weeks and $305 this past 2 weeks. That includes paper products, cleaning products, etc. It can be done!
The girls are leaving Thursday with Aaron's parents to go to Pigeon Forge. I know they are going to the Titantic museum. Not sure what else they have planned, but I am sure they will have a great time. I think I will try to get 3 school days in this week before they go. We are on day 20 I think. So we have somewhat of a headstart. That will give us a buffer for sickness, me working, vacations, etc.
Think I will go back to bed. I was in bed for a while and couldn't sleep. Now for a 2nd try.
I remembered that Kroger had sent me some coupons in the mail. I dug those out and had a lot of coupons for things that were on my list including free eggs and peanut butter, and other things that were cheaper at Kroger with these coupons they sent. So I ended up going at 8pm last night when I got off work. The girls went with me and we got home about 9. I was feeling pretty good when I left the house, but was feeling pretty awful by the time I got home. But I survived.
I had a small list for Aldi, so Aaron agreed to drop me and Natalie off on the way home from church, go get gas, then come back and pick us up and go home. This was very hard because we are always starving. But we all had a cheese stick on the way home to get us by until lunch.
I am proud of myself with our new budget. I added the food up today, as we put it in the cart, knowing that I had $75 left in our 2 week budget for food. We even put some items back because I really didn't want to go over. But, alas, I ended up spending $77 today.
We started this budget almost 4 weeks ago. Our goal is $600 total in groceries every 4 weeks (we really do 2 week budgets, so $300 every 2 weeks) I ended up spending around $575 on groceries - $270 the first 2 weeks and $305 this past 2 weeks. That includes paper products, cleaning products, etc. It can be done!
The girls are leaving Thursday with Aaron's parents to go to Pigeon Forge. I know they are going to the Titantic museum. Not sure what else they have planned, but I am sure they will have a great time. I think I will try to get 3 school days in this week before they go. We are on day 20 I think. So we have somewhat of a headstart. That will give us a buffer for sickness, me working, vacations, etc.
Think I will go back to bed. I was in bed for a while and couldn't sleep. Now for a 2nd try.
Thursday, August 8, 2013
We went to our new Co-op meeting yesterday at one of the member's houses. It was at 1pm about 40 min. away. But even at 1pm and the boys missing their naps, they did real well. The house was very big and plenty of space for the 25+ kids to run around and play. There was a play room right next to where we were meeting where I told the boys to stay and they did real well. Only slept for about 20 min. on the way home, so they got to go to bed at 8pm. They don't normally stay up much past 8pm, and surprisingly, Ethan wasn't too whiny. We didn't leave until 4pm and because of rush hour traffic, didn't get home until after 5pm.
I am terrible to always 2nd guess myself. I feel confident in this change, however, I don't want to really get into the reasons for it with everyone that asks me. I think this will work out well. The girls seemed to enjoy playing yesterday. It is just so hard to leave old friends. Myself included. I started thinking yesterday of the few moms at our hold Co-op that have adopted, or are fostering and how nice it was to talk with them each Friday. There, I do it again, start 2nd guessing. Like Aaron said, the decision has been made, go with it.
The girls have struggled with it too. I reminded them that when we changed churches a few years ago, the girls were upset. And for a while really missed the old place, but soon enough, they all at some point, made it a point to tell us that they were glad that we changed.
We only did one day of school this week. I planned to do 4, but Tuesday, I ended up working 7-4. Yesterday, I really didn't want to rush around before we went to the meeting and today, I think we will enjoy the summer a little and go to the splash pad before it storms this afternoon. It has rained a lot this summer and that means a lot of inside time.
Seems like it is always time to go to the grocery store. Ugh! I might go today, if I can work on my list at the splash pad. I am working 12 hours the next two days, so I can't go then. Then we get into Sundays, which are sooo busy. Aldi is on our way home from church. About 2 miles from church, about 15 miles from our house, so it takes up all afternoon to drive back after coming home and eating, then back home again, then back to church again. Perhaps, if I have my list ready, Aaron would be willing to stop on the way home from church. Bad thing is, we are all starving by the time church is over, it would be hard to have to stop at the store. We'll see. We went through 7 boxes of cereal since the last grocery run.
I am terrible to always 2nd guess myself. I feel confident in this change, however, I don't want to really get into the reasons for it with everyone that asks me. I think this will work out well. The girls seemed to enjoy playing yesterday. It is just so hard to leave old friends. Myself included. I started thinking yesterday of the few moms at our hold Co-op that have adopted, or are fostering and how nice it was to talk with them each Friday. There, I do it again, start 2nd guessing. Like Aaron said, the decision has been made, go with it.
The girls have struggled with it too. I reminded them that when we changed churches a few years ago, the girls were upset. And for a while really missed the old place, but soon enough, they all at some point, made it a point to tell us that they were glad that we changed.
We only did one day of school this week. I planned to do 4, but Tuesday, I ended up working 7-4. Yesterday, I really didn't want to rush around before we went to the meeting and today, I think we will enjoy the summer a little and go to the splash pad before it storms this afternoon. It has rained a lot this summer and that means a lot of inside time.
Seems like it is always time to go to the grocery store. Ugh! I might go today, if I can work on my list at the splash pad. I am working 12 hours the next two days, so I can't go then. Then we get into Sundays, which are sooo busy. Aldi is on our way home from church. About 2 miles from church, about 15 miles from our house, so it takes up all afternoon to drive back after coming home and eating, then back home again, then back to church again. Perhaps, if I have my list ready, Aaron would be willing to stop on the way home from church. Bad thing is, we are all starving by the time church is over, it would be hard to have to stop at the store. We'll see. We went through 7 boxes of cereal since the last grocery run.
Sunday, August 4, 2013
Saving money on groceries!
I was so sleepy after working 2 12 hr. shifts that I went to bed around 9pm last night. I could hardly stay awake. Of course that meant I was up at 5:45am. I am also fighting allergies/cold/ or sinus infection. Not 100% sure which. I woke up stopped up yesterday morning and my head was clogged all day. I took a Claritin this morning and I am starting to feel slightly better. Natalie was having a leftover "I didn't drink enough water" camp stomach ache and was lying on the couch alternating between moaning and sleeping before church, so we decided to stay home.
Actually, we took advantage of the no tax on school supplies and went to Wal-Mart to get her something to help her stomach get back to normal and I went ahead and spent my $50 I had budgeted for school supplies this week. I hope I got enough for the whole year. You can get a lot of school supplies for $50. Walmart is pretty empty on Sunday mornings.
Not much else planned for today other than church tonight and the older girls have a devotional afterward. Hoping my head will clear up enough to do my exercises.
I also wrote the checks for the rest of the bills due in this 2 week budget. Since Aaron got paid yesterday. Looking at the bright side, I have enjoyed this challenge of staying in the budget. I am such a nerd.
I am spending SOOOOO much less money on groceries. I don't even know how much I was spending before, but I am know that I am saving at least $200 a month, possibly up to $400 a month. .
This is by making a detailed menu of 7 dinners and desserts, making a detailed grocery list from this menu, adding breakfasts and Aaron's lunches to the grocery list, shopping at Aldi and only getting what is on the list. I make the "hard" dishes on the days I am home. Normally, I would buy a lot of premade, processed food, easy to make for Aaron while I am at work. I save the easy dishes and leftovers for Aaron to make or cook. He can follow any recipe if he wanted, but his goal is easy and the least amt of time in the kitchen. I love to cook, so it works out good that way for us. I also take all leftovers for my lunches at work. I have to take a lot, since I leave the house at 6am and arrive home at 8pm at the earliest. Even eating in the cafeteria at work at a discounted employee price adds up.
Aaron went to Aldi with me Friday. He was amazed that the full grocery cart was only $151. I am too lazy to do a price comparison, but guess that I probably save about $50 shopping there when I fill up the cart. The bad thing about Aldi is that they don't carry everything. For example, rice milk, I have to go elsewhere.
Actually, we took advantage of the no tax on school supplies and went to Wal-Mart to get her something to help her stomach get back to normal and I went ahead and spent my $50 I had budgeted for school supplies this week. I hope I got enough for the whole year. You can get a lot of school supplies for $50. Walmart is pretty empty on Sunday mornings.
Not much else planned for today other than church tonight and the older girls have a devotional afterward. Hoping my head will clear up enough to do my exercises.
I also wrote the checks for the rest of the bills due in this 2 week budget. Since Aaron got paid yesterday. Looking at the bright side, I have enjoyed this challenge of staying in the budget. I am such a nerd.
I am spending SOOOOO much less money on groceries. I don't even know how much I was spending before, but I am know that I am saving at least $200 a month, possibly up to $400 a month. .
This is by making a detailed menu of 7 dinners and desserts, making a detailed grocery list from this menu, adding breakfasts and Aaron's lunches to the grocery list, shopping at Aldi and only getting what is on the list. I make the "hard" dishes on the days I am home. Normally, I would buy a lot of premade, processed food, easy to make for Aaron while I am at work. I save the easy dishes and leftovers for Aaron to make or cook. He can follow any recipe if he wanted, but his goal is easy and the least amt of time in the kitchen. I love to cook, so it works out good that way for us. I also take all leftovers for my lunches at work. I have to take a lot, since I leave the house at 6am and arrive home at 8pm at the earliest. Even eating in the cafeteria at work at a discounted employee price adds up.
Aaron went to Aldi with me Friday. He was amazed that the full grocery cart was only $151. I am too lazy to do a price comparison, but guess that I probably save about $50 shopping there when I fill up the cart. The bad thing about Aldi is that they don't carry everything. For example, rice milk, I have to go elsewhere.
Thursday, August 1, 2013
A Bit of Irony
I forgot to post about this earlier.
I had mentioned that we were changing home school co-ops and one of the reasons was because the girls hardly got any of their classes that they wanted. The reason I knew this was because the Co-op had sent out the list of classes that had filled up on Monday (our sign up date was Tuesday morning). Most of the girls' 1st and 2nd choices were already full.
Like I mentioned before, I am terrible at making the final decision to stay or leave somewhere. I finally emailed both the new co-op and the old one.
Less than an hour later, Madelyn got the mail and in it was a letter from our old co-op, with a list of the classes the girls got in. And come to find out, Madelyn got her first choice in classes, Natalie got her first choice in classes. Poor Hannah got 3rd choice in all her classes. So that wasn't a good excuse to leave anymore.
However, I had already sent the emails and I feel good about the decision still. I am glad that I sent the emails before getting the mail though, because I would have really second guessed myself.
I had mentioned that we were changing home school co-ops and one of the reasons was because the girls hardly got any of their classes that they wanted. The reason I knew this was because the Co-op had sent out the list of classes that had filled up on Monday (our sign up date was Tuesday morning). Most of the girls' 1st and 2nd choices were already full.
Like I mentioned before, I am terrible at making the final decision to stay or leave somewhere. I finally emailed both the new co-op and the old one.
Less than an hour later, Madelyn got the mail and in it was a letter from our old co-op, with a list of the classes the girls got in. And come to find out, Madelyn got her first choice in classes, Natalie got her first choice in classes. Poor Hannah got 3rd choice in all her classes. So that wasn't a good excuse to leave anymore.
However, I had already sent the emails and I feel good about the decision still. I am glad that I sent the emails before getting the mail though, because I would have really second guessed myself.
USCIS Fingerprints done
Aaron took work off today and Mom watched the 3 kids at home while Aaron and I drove to Birmingham to have our fingerprints done for USCIS. We were only there about 10 min. and we were done, ready to drive the 1.5 hrs back home.
Getting our USCIS fingerprints done is exciting, however a little depressing seeing how we have so long to go before affording this adoption. But there could always be a miracle and someone pay for our adoption or somehow we pay our debt off real, real quick.
Aaron and I then went to Aldi, where I only went over by $1 on the groceries for the week. I can make up for it next week, since we are doing 2 week budgets. Aaron HATES to go to grocery stores, but he was sweet this time with minimal irritation :)
Oh yeah, the other day when I went over all the repairs in the last year, I forgot about having to replace our hot water heater and buy all new tires for the Montero. :(. I knew there were things I forgot about.
I never did get finished going through our old file cabinet. Maybe tonight. I haven't felt real great today, so I may just lie around tonight. Working 12 hours the next two days! Money, money!
Getting our USCIS fingerprints done is exciting, however a little depressing seeing how we have so long to go before affording this adoption. But there could always be a miracle and someone pay for our adoption or somehow we pay our debt off real, real quick.
Aaron and I then went to Aldi, where I only went over by $1 on the groceries for the week. I can make up for it next week, since we are doing 2 week budgets. Aaron HATES to go to grocery stores, but he was sweet this time with minimal irritation :)
Oh yeah, the other day when I went over all the repairs in the last year, I forgot about having to replace our hot water heater and buy all new tires for the Montero. :(. I knew there were things I forgot about.
I never did get finished going through our old file cabinet. Maybe tonight. I haven't felt real great today, so I may just lie around tonight. Working 12 hours the next two days! Money, money!
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